Look at me, two post in one day. Though I can't take too much credit for this post at all. Earlier, I posed the question of whether or not it's smart to date a friend. A lot of people weighed in one way or the other, still many opinions out there so keep them coming. But I wanted to share this comment with you all. Its not only thorough, but probably closest to my sentiments. Anyway, if you haven't already taken a look at the original posting, do so now, then come back and check out this response.
Well "Cuz" my opinion is going to be totally out of the box and breaking ALL rules.
I found myself facing the same dilemma 20 years ago. We all want what God wants for us, but exactly what is that? Everyone has an opinion of what that is, and some even offer their opinion as a statement of fact :).
However, if I knew THEN what I know NOW, I would do a few things differently in the area of waiting for Mr. Right.... So here goes 20 years of experience speaking...
First of all, what is it about the "old friend" that you like/love? Hopefully there is attraction that is definable. None of that "he makes me feel good when I'm around him" goes stuff. It's a great concept that a good husband should first start off as a good friend. But I have to wonder why you haven't dated him yet if he's THAT good (there's probably a reason if you search deep inside of yourself)...
Okay, unless you're a licensed psychologist/psychiatrist (and able to prescribe meds), or otherwise clinician willing to take on a "clinical complication" waiting for complicated to become uncomplicated is like waiting for white to turn black... Even if its possible, why would you? What's the goal? Why him? What are any redeeming factors that make this complication worth waiting for? There may be very good answers to those questions, and if there are then GREAT!
Last option: Wait... Well, experience says that it's far more easier said than done! Good luck with that.
In the meanwhile, with the careful guidance of the almighty, live... That means exactly that--live! Stop waiting for something to happen before you allow something to happen. Stop waiting for someone to come along before you start living.
I always tell my children--To thine ownself be true. As long as you are true to you, no one else needs an explanation. So if you decide to spend time with people, don't immediately or automatically begin sizing them up for "happily ever after." Start with "happily today." God knows your heart and everything else about you. Sometimes he's more permissive than people are. People require and demand explanation so that their conscience can be settled. But you're now living for "people" are you?
Okay, that's enough for now. Let's see how you digest that much :)
So what do you think? Do you agree.
As always, Love and Blessings. Follow me on Twitter @MzSBG
Well "Cuz" my opinion is going to be totally out of the box and breaking ALL rules.
I found myself facing the same dilemma 20 years ago. We all want what God wants for us, but exactly what is that? Everyone has an opinion of what that is, and some even offer their opinion as a statement of fact :).
However, if I knew THEN what I know NOW, I would do a few things differently in the area of waiting for Mr. Right.... So here goes 20 years of experience speaking...
First of all, what is it about the "old friend" that you like/love? Hopefully there is attraction that is definable. None of that "he makes me feel good when I'm around him" goes stuff. It's a great concept that a good husband should first start off as a good friend. But I have to wonder why you haven't dated him yet if he's THAT good (there's probably a reason if you search deep inside of yourself)...
Okay, unless you're a licensed psychologist/psychiatrist (and able to prescribe meds), or otherwise clinician willing to take on a "clinical complication" waiting for complicated to become uncomplicated is like waiting for white to turn black... Even if its possible, why would you? What's the goal? Why him? What are any redeeming factors that make this complication worth waiting for? There may be very good answers to those questions, and if there are then GREAT!
Last option: Wait... Well, experience says that it's far more easier said than done! Good luck with that.
In the meanwhile, with the careful guidance of the almighty, live... That means exactly that--live! Stop waiting for something to happen before you allow something to happen. Stop waiting for someone to come along before you start living.
I always tell my children--To thine ownself be true. As long as you are true to you, no one else needs an explanation. So if you decide to spend time with people, don't immediately or automatically begin sizing them up for "happily ever after." Start with "happily today." God knows your heart and everything else about you. Sometimes he's more permissive than people are. People require and demand explanation so that their conscience can be settled. But you're now living for "people" are you?
Okay, that's enough for now. Let's see how you digest that much :)
So what do you think? Do you agree.
As always, Love and Blessings. Follow me on Twitter @MzSBG
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